Are you stuck in a relationship with a sociopath? Sociopaths are often hard to let go of because they falsely claim to be terminally ill to keep you trapped. Let’s take a deeper look at the saga of sociopathy.
Sociopaths love to dominate
They are pathological liars who can come up with the most intricate and elaborate lies just to manipulate and control you. They will take advantage of you by any means necessary, even if they have to lie to you about your having a serious, life-threatening illness. Moreover, they will go to great lengths to keep their lie and prevent you from finding the truth. They will do everything just to control you, without an iota of hesitation or worrying about what their lies might make you feel.
Therapist, attorney, and author Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, explain “Sociopaths suffer from the most subtle personality disorder (antisocial personality disorder), and one of the most serious. They slip under our radar because they put a lot of energy into deceiving us… Anyone can be a target.“
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At first, the sociopath will work tirelessly to care for and prepare you. And when they realize that they can easily control and manipulate you, when they gain ownership over you, they will do anything to make sure you keep it that way. They can use a number of strategies to manipulate you, such as reflection, love explosions, compulsive lying, and even pretending to be a victim in the relationship.
but that is not all. They can also use some fear-based strategies to keep you short and in control. They can use intimidation, threats, lies, false accusations, and isolation to break your self-esteem and confidence and make you dependent on them.
Master of lies and deception
Sociopaths are usually infected with antisocial personality disorder. They are experts at creating elaborate lies that you will have to believe. They will make you question your reality and your sanity by making you avoid the warning signs. You will have no other choice but to trust them and doubt yourself. “In a dating relationship, a sociopath may be the most loving, charming, affectionate and giving person you have ever met. But it’s too good to be trueAdds Bill Eddy.
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When you start noticing the red flags, when you discover their lies and deceit, and when you are about to confront them, the sociopath will hit you with a very detailed and intricate sick story to regain his control over you again. Since they are always preying on sympathetic and emotional people, they will know about your gentle and caring nature and will use it against you.
For them, you act as a source of supply. You are feeding their fragile ego and poor self-esteem. So they programmed and brainwashed you over days, weeks, and months to control you and control every aspect of your life. When you discover his reality and decide to leave him, the sociopath will feel threatened. This is when they deceive you, manipulate you, and deceive you with a false story about the disease. Since they will pretend that they have some chronic disease, such as cancer, you will have to show empathy and kindness to them. Even a heartless person will have a positive reaction to a sick person. Since they are experts at watching and keeping tabs on people, the sociopath knows how you will react. The tale of their false illness will force you to forgive them and stay with them for longer than you’d like. And that’s all they need to circulate their toxic magic around you, reprogramming you and controlling you all over again.
Sociopaths have no conscience
Sociopaths are unscrupulous individuals. They are pathological liars who can say and do anything to control you and get what they want. Hence, fabricating and faking diseases is no big deal to them. They use it as a tool to create drama and lock you in with it. When you become caught up in their lies, you will feel sorry for their horrible disjointed illness and will instinctively show a strong and positive response. Soon, you’ll start accepting their toxic behavior and making excuses to stay with them.
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The sociopath’s story of illness helps them:
- Distract from the truth
- Gaining compassion, kindness, care and empathy
- Get positive feedback and attention from you
- prevented you from leaving
- Take the role of the victim
- It makes you responsible for their well-being
Even worse, the sociopath will do everything in their power to protect his lie. Keeping lying and maintaining their control over you is more important to them than your emotions. Protecting the false reality they created is of paramount importance to them. So the lie continues to grow and involves every aspect of the sociopath’s life until it is completely consumed by you. For them, their lie will become their truth. They will become their fake disease.